November 30, 2007 § Leave a comment
On days when I really wish I could get a hold of someone on the phone, everyone’s in a meeting or they’ve got their phone turned off or on vibrate. Today, just as I was welcoming people into our home, the phone rang. I decided to let it ring and get it later. A couple more mamas and kids came in and the phone rang again. “Okay, let it go”, I thought. I still checked to see who it was (good news, by the way). We were getting our plates full of food and it rang again. Again?!? Three phone calls? Three different people? Who told these people I was having guests?
(It may be obvious to you by now that being a mom can feel quite isolating when you stay home. It doesn’t have to be and while it may feel like it will be in the beginning, it changes and now we get together with friends a couple of times a week, go to the library, walk around town. We can also go to our neighbors house to hang out.)
This was the second time we’ve gotten together with our kids. Six moms and six babies- only one is over a year. Bilingual baby is one of the oldest (for a change) and toddles around trying to get the moms to take her for a walk, hugs them, hugs their kids and is thankfully distracted from the pain that cutting a molar is causing. But, three phone calls! And people I’d love to have a lengthy conversation with, at that.
I guess I wouldn’t have been able to talk much anyway as bilingual baby likes to hold the phone, push buttons and then takes off with it, leaving us walking behind her trying to be heard over the speakerphone.
Oh. I’m working on a joke:
A 6 month old, a 18 month old and an 24 month old walk into a playgroup…
That’s all I’ve got. It’s already funny on so many levels (pun intentional). I did get a couple of laughs from the mamas but needing to be in the moment, the joke and it’s potential ending were lost.
November 29, 2007 § Leave a comment
I’ve got a little time here while bilingual baby is rearranging my yarn stash (eep) and listening to music (and playing with the records).
I’ve been reading on the big EC list about how putting an EC baby in underwear (tiny chonis) you are more aware and they are aware when they have a little tinkle. So, I’ve got bilingual baby in her first pair of handmade underwear. (Just so you know, she’s walking toward me with a size 8 knitting needle and my darning needle holder. Um, she just wet her tiny underwear… hehe). Okay. So, lesson learnt. Never assume your baby has peed “enough”. I had just taken her after her nap and 20 minutes later. Back to the baby underwear. Here’s a really cool and easy pattern to make kiddie underwear. Make some, if anything to say you did. They take up so little fabric, you could consider it a stash buster project. Of course, I also have a knit pattern for underwear but it’s just so quick to sew them.
I’m gonna review the movie Whale Rider soon…
November 28, 2007 § 5 Comments
100. Already? I guess the Nablopomo has been doing its job. It’s been fun. I don’t want to waste this 100th post with nonsense. I need to think hard about what I want to say. Apologize for my many soap boxes?, my eagerness to start a blog without much direction?, going on and on about childbirth? (I haven’t even mentioned the dilation of my cervix during labor and how I would have probably ended up with an “emergency c-section” had I been in a hospital yet!)
I guess I’d like to try to bring closure to a couple of things and give hope (maybe) to anybody reading:
1. My first post. I agree it was cheap to say that beginning posts are overrated and use that as an excuse for not writing one. If anything it’s a sign of my character. I try things out before I can really explain them to anyone. I learn by doing.
2. This being my blog, my forum, I should feel like I can write about anything. Those of you who know me must have realized that this is not the case. By far. I’m paraphrasing myself here but I have said before that “I blog for myself but edit for others.” Just so you understand me.
3. I have many knitting ideas and I want to explore design options for a babywearing raglan sweater in medium bulky yarn- for speed. I’m also sure that my babywearing gear stories are not over.
4. If you’re eager to know bilingual baby’s identity you’ll have to live your life in frustration. How we came up with her name is not romantic either, so don’t worry, you’re not missing much. Though, I do like the names we picked for her. Hopefully, she will like them, too.
5. Why don’t I write more stories of bilingual baby’s day? Part of me would really enjoy it but I keep trying to keep her privacy in mind. Also, the things that happen either get sucked into the whole that is my brain never to be retrieved or they’re cute but get edited out. As things continue to change in her life, perhaps I’ll start writing more about her. I feel like I need to focus on my transformation into a mother. Hope it’s not too much naval gazing for ya.
6. My thoughts on parenting are really just forming and I’m already changing what I did when bilingual baby was younger. I’m reading a lot, as you’ve noticed. There’s still more I want to read, starting with Connecting Parenting by Pam Leo. All the while, I’ve been rereading the quotes in the Baha’i Writings on child rearing and trying to find their application. I really feel that what I’ve been reading is in line with the Writings but I still want to draw the parallels on paper (I mean here) for my memory’s sake.
7. Feel free to leave me a comment, whether you agree with what I write about or not. That’s what web 2.0 is all about. I do reserve the right to edit or delete your comment. As you may have noticed, I don’t do it often enough for you to restrain yourself. Just keep being positive and respectful. It’s appreciated.
I also have to thank you for reading. Maybe in another 100 posts, I’ll be able to talk about what it’s like to blog. I still don’t know.
Should have ended at point 4 as I hear bilingual baby’s breathing has changed: she’s learning about something…
November 27, 2007 § 2 Comments
Okay, this weekend I went out and purchased two layers of babywearing gear. This was after an exhausting search for a regular coat that I could wear with bilingual baby in the carrier. I dragged my in-laws, brother-in-law and bilingual papi on this search. They were most helpful. I figured out that if I wanted a regular coat for babywearing, I’d need a size 18 petite raglan style coat. The reason is that I need all the fabric around us but not in the sleeves or the shoulders really. After finding a bunch of size 16 petite raglan style coats but only 1- sized 18 at $440, I thought I’d be better off layering. I got Suses Kinder vest (cozy warm) and the Mama Coat (which I got half price at a store in town). I’m still thinking I’ll need a large sweater to go around the two of us either under or over the vest. I’m figuring it’ll be getting really cold and that I’ll still want to get out to playgroups and for walks. I just can’t stay in doors all day. It drives me batty.
Here are some people we don’t know wearing the coat and the vest.
And now, pictures of people you do know. First, bundled up. Bilingual baby is sleeping here andI zipped up the jacket almost all the way when we were outside. When she’s awake you see her head popping out of the coat.
I unzipped the layers for you to see. Kind of reminds me of science class when we were studying the layers of the earth just that babies don’t live at the center of the earth.
Coming up… my 100th post!
November 26, 2007 § Leave a comment
I’ve been reading the book, Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. In it is a quote I’d like to share with you:
“When you come right down to it, the whole process of raising a kid is pretty damned inconvenient, particularly if you want to do it well. If you’re unwilling to give up any of your free time, if you want your house to stay quiet and clean, you might consider raising tropical fish instead.”
There’s more to be said about this book. I like it. It’s challenging and is making me really consider why I say the things I say, rather than just go along with whatever I blurt out.
November 25, 2007 § 4 Comments
We’ve been staying up till 1 am with bilingual baby who hasn’t been tired until then. I have to say that I’m really feeling the seduction of sleep training and crying it out methods. It’s only been two nights so far so I think I really have to give it some more time. But here I am, it’s not even 9pm and I’m totally wiped. It isn’t helping that I feel a cold coming on. It started in my throat and has now morphed into a neck ache.
It’s hard to let your baby know, that late in the day, that you are still happy to see them. It’s tempting to say, “Okay, it’s time to go to bed now” with that tone of “I’m really serious this time”. I know bilingual papi is feeling the burn and the potential of having a night like one of these and then having to go to work the next morning. I don’t have that concern, so perhaps that’s why I’m still questioning the sleep control techniques.
I don’t want to try to control her sleep patterns. I can’t say what I’ll do when she’s older because I just don’t know what’ll happen then and I’d rather cross that bridge when I get to it. We checked the Dr. Sears Baby book last night and I’m truly disappointed.
We agree with the majority of the stuff the Sears clan has to say about raising children but we don’t agree with some of the tactics they suggest using when your baby won’t fall asleep. For the most part, the Sears bunch seem so thoughtful in their parenting choices. One of the suggestions they gave for a child that wanted to play in the middle of the night was to “play dead” and to ignore the child. They’re sure that the child will lose interest. They talk about asserting yourself as the adult in charge.
My gut instinct says I can’t bring myself to do that, even if it means that I’m wiped the next day. I know that I’ll be taking bilingual baby downstairs to be with her if she can’t fall asleep when her papi has to work early the next day and that doesn’t bother me. See, when she’d look ready to fall asleep or I thought it might be a good time to try to encourage sleep, I’d put her in the Ergo but she’d just start wailing. Very unlike her. (So, I figure it’s teeth and her learning to walk.) Eventually, after reading books and walking around with her (around 1 am) she gets that look in her eye (but doesn’t yawn- weird) and I put her in the Ergo and she’s out in a couple of minutes while nursing.
It’s just so frustrating to feel the pressure to get her to bed by people that aren’t even in the room! I feel like I’ll get people telling me that she’s manipulating me and that I’ve got to put my foot down to set a precedent.
We’re going to try a warm bath at 9:30 pm, read some books and see what happens. However, if she doesn’t want to fall asleep until 1 am than I’d rather live with that than ignore her and give off the message that I don’t love her when she’s up late. Tricky but I think it’ll pay off in the long run.
November 24, 2007 § Leave a comment
There are so many gaps that are not friendly walking around during winter. You know, between pants and socks, sweaters and hats, sleeves and gloves. I’ve got it in me that there’s no such thing as bad weather, just bad clothing.
When we moved to Chicago, bilingual papi’s mom and grandmother helped me gather necessary layers so that I’d be warm when walking around in the cold winter- add wind chill, and you’ll agree that the following items are much needed. It’s all in how you layer. I learnt that you start with a Cuddle duds (or other long underwear) then you add your shirt, a wool sweater and an overcoat, gloves, hat, etc etc. If you’ve seen me bundled up, you know I mean business. Whether it’s to pick up the mail or out for a walk around the block for fresh air, I’m gonna stay warm.
Bilingual baby has me to keep her warm when we’re out and about, as I wear her under a sweater and if she’s on my back I use the poncho I made. I am going to need more layers though. I’ve read that a baby stays warmer next to your body than in their own layers. When our daughter was a newborn, we were told that she’d thrive if we did skin to skin- in order that she didn’t use up energy trying to regulate her body temperature. I guess I’ll have to look into when a child is able to regulate body temp.
That said, I still want to do everything possible so that she can stay warm- especially when she wants to go in the snow to play. I’ve started on a couple of knitted items.
1. Neck warmer. Made of yarn I had left over from the sweater I made her before she was born. This picture is from last winter. The sweater still fits! woohoo! It’s a little short in the sleeves but the length in the torso is great. (I’d say that’s a tip for knitters. If you want to knit something that’ll last the baby. Knit a couple inches extra in the body, while keeping the sleeves the length of the pattern.)
2. Alpaca mittens. Truly warm and so cute. Made of the same yarn as the blue bonnet from last winter.
We also have the baby legs we got her last winter, too, which are great for the gap that emerges from the bottom of her pants to the top of her socks when in a carrier.
I’ll post pictures of knitted items soon. I’m working on the some cheery leg warmers (for me).