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Fair Trade, Buy Handmade

September 27, 2009 · 1 Comment

A while ago, I was trying to make a black and white decision about what I thought was better for my family: local or organic. What I’ve learned since starting those questions is that in our area most of the time local means organic, though it may not be certified organic. Either way, right? So, I’m tending toward local, even if it doesn’t have the organic sticker on it. Am I missing something here? Let me know, if I am.

Another thought came into my head later: What about Fair Trade?

It depends what it is… Coffee needs to be fair trade, since there is such a history of people trying to make a living off of very little in this field. Most things local will be fairly traded, but you must be cautious. There are companies who say they are local but their goods are manufactured in China. I don’t have a problem with China; it’s with the companies in the United States that pick China to do their dirty work. Cheap labor is not good for anyone. I know times are tight (I know I’m feeling it) but cheapening the work of others, despite the fact that we don’t know them, lowers their worth and in my opinion lowers ours as well. I’m learning this from living in Vermont; from having two little kids who are so pure and so giving to others. Bilingual baby even said that I made her baby brothers scooter simply because she saw me put it together- quite a feat, putting together something with all those tiny pieces, with two kids wide awake, ready to help- though it was more fun to have them help me than to have it appear in all its red shiny glory. In her eyes, people make things. I love it!

So, if a kid is going to ask, wonder and beg you to tell them who made this or who painted that, who grew the food, who put it in the silo (still with the silos), who made it? I can see why people take pledges to buy handmade. When you buy handmade, you get to know the person (even if only briefly) who has made whatever you’re buying. You get to know pieces of their life- you get a story with your purchase. If you buy something at a farmers market, you’ve probably seen the person under their tent several times, looked at their creations and talked to them about how they make it, what gives them inspiration, etc. Can you imagine knowing the first and last name of the person who made your dish towels, your spatula, or your … whatever? I know most people have a little mug that someone made. It was either a family member who took pottery classes or someone local who sells them in town. You treasure that mug. You pull it out when you have a friend come over for tea. You talk about it. You are so proud of the fact that someone- a person, not a machine- put time and energy into making the mug (or mugs) you love to use the most. It’s a great feeling.

We don’t buy handmade all the time, but we do try to go out of our way as much as possible to reach for handmade. It’s simpler when you have a sewing machine to reach for that fabric and make the thing that your family member needs. Bilingual papi kept using plastic grocery bags for his gym clothes. I stumbled upon a tutorial on how to make a cloth bag that looks like a plastic grocery bag. Need met. It felt really good, too.

I think the next step for me is to buy handmade (or make) the gifts I give to others. Most times I try to since I have a hard time shopping for gifts. However, when I find something cool to make, I can just make it and prep it for giving. I don’t know if I’m ready for the pledge but for now I’ll show you the button that you’d see if I were ready to make the pledge to buy handmade.

I Took The Handmade Pledge! BuyHandmade.org

A couple of months back, I wanted to take the Wardrobe Refashion challenge, where you pledge to make all your clothes for a determined period of time from preloved clothes or from fabric, etc. Basically, you aren’t supposed to buy new for yourself, and you get to take it as far as you want (i.e. your family, gifts, etc).

2 month pledge

Where does that leave me?

Lots of ideals. I like being an idealist, even if people peg me for a dreamer.

Categories: "gift giving" · dilemma · eat local · ecofriendly · family · mothering · toddler

Family Compounds

August 4, 2009 · 4 Comments

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After having family from both our sides around us helping with the kids and keeping me engaged in adult conversation, I’m having a bit of culture shock now that we’re back home. Baby brother is having some more teething discomfort and there’s very little I can do besides carry him around and nursing on and off all day. When we had family around all day even if I were holding him all day I could talk to other adults about whatever came to mind.

Some cultures, like the Balinese, have family compounds. Each smaller unit lives in a separate “house” but all of these homes have a central open area in common. I was walking around trying to get the kids to nap a couple of months ago and saw this sign that said, “multi-family” and thought of the Balinese. Life seems simpler within the compound. There are multiple generations within reach and nobody has to make anybody else feel guilty for living far away (ahem!). Children grow up assuming they will do the work their mothers and fathers do and eagerly apprentice from a young age.

I can only assume it would be difficult to adjust to living with several generations having never experienced it; both sets of grandparents had passed away by the time I was 7 years old. Now that my dad has retired from teaching I wish I could be around him all day and my future visits to California will get to be longer since he won’t be going to his old job.

Gotta run. The kale chips are done.

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Happy New Year

December 31, 2008 · 1 Comment

It’s been a while since I blogged. We’ve been visiting family for Christmas and are back home now. I’m trying not to get sick so I’ll be brief. I’ll fill in with stories later. It was a great time.

That is brief.

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My sister had her baby!

December 11, 2008 · Leave a Comment

My sister had her baby last night after a very short and hard labor. Short is hard, too, you know. Anyway, this isn’t her blog so I’m not going into details about her labor. They have gone home already and are (hopefully) sleeping. They gave him a beautiful name: Julian. In Spanish you’d pronounce it: Hoo-lee-UN. I know there’s an “a” there and not a “u” but English is funny that way. Don’t worry about pronunciation. This is a time of joy! She has a beautiful baby boy at home and she can finally cozy up to him.

We’ve been on the phone everyday for the last month or so and I’ve put myself on-call for her from here on out. If you remember my entries on postpartum care, I don’t think the system is set up to really support women who have just given birth.

I could rattle on about that theme again but I’m just so happy and I want to leave this entry as is.

Categories: family · labor

Photo fun (remember that dress?)

December 10, 2008 · Leave a Comment

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Dear Grandpa Houte,

November 5, 2008 · 1 Comment

I’ve been getting your messages. For a couple of months now, I’ve seen 4:44 on the clock. I hadn’t seen your message before now. I wonder if you’re watching down on us, taking care of us, interested in checking in on your great-grandkids. I’m sure you are. I know your grandson, my husband, was greatly influenced by the way you lived your life. He wears your wedding ring as we speak. Gram told him, on our wedding day, that he was to be faithful and kind. She told him more than that but those are the only ones I remember. I know you meant a lot to him and I’m sure the stories he tells about you will be told to his children, too.

love

Leila

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Dear downtown Montpelier businesses,

November 1, 2008 · Leave a Comment

I have to say, “Well done!” I couldn’t believe how many of you opened your doors and gave candy to the kids of this area on Halloween. You’ll probably agree that there were a lot of kids… which meant a lot of candy. Thank you! Really. Thank you in particular to Onion River Kids who didn’t mind bilingual baby coming in, taking her coat off and sitting down at the kids table to draw while other kids came in saying, “trick or treat”, grabbing their candy and heading for the door. Thank you also to Splash. My daughter really enjoyed playing with the soap you gave her. What a clever idea! Zutano, we didn’t make it to your store for the sock and candy inside… but thanks for what you did give us.

I’m sure your efforts will bring you more business. As a parent, it matters to me that a business has an area with kid toys, or a table for coloring, like Capitol Copy or One more time.

Next year we’ll be back. I wonder what bilingual baby will be dressed up as then… this year she was a Cubs fan, for those of you who didn’t ask.

By the way, “buddy”? She’s a girl. And yes I have a baby in the coat. Not a dog.

thanks again,

Leila

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How will you stay entertained this winter?

October 26, 2008 · Leave a Comment

I’m planning on making an igloo for bilingual baby and our friends this winter. Crazy? Me? Now imagine what we would do if we ended up getting a ton of snow… a crazed toddler! And who wants that? She needs her fresh air and she needs some way to blow off steam. My answer… I buy her this thing called the eskimold (silly name, if you ask me, but I’m not making money off it) and get to work when we get the first dump of snow. I promise pictures.

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hair cut

October 22, 2008 · Leave a Comment

I just buzzed bilingual papi’s hair for the first time and I like it!

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In Pictures: 6 weeks

October 13, 2008 · 1 Comment

Here you can see bilingual baby enjoying autumn and baby 2.0 and I in our new wrap. It’s one of the Didymos and it’s scrumptious.

Can anyone think of any cool activities to do to celebrate International Babywearing Week?

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